Choosing To Commit To Marriage or Storage

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Jul

Choosing To Commit To Marriage or Storage

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Have you been dating someone for several months? Maybe several years? Is this the person you want to be with forever? And here is the big question, are you ready for marriage?

It is hard to know sometimes if you are ready for this huge step in life. It could possibly be one of the biggest decisions you will always make. And with divorce more and more prevalent, it is important to know up front, before you walk down the aisle, if you are 100 percent certain about your choice. Nobody wants to say I do thinking that they will say never mind within a few years time.

Brett had most of his belongings in long term storage when he met his girlfriend Tanya. He had had them in long term storage for quite a while. All through college they had been in long term storage , and even afterward he had kept them there while he tried to start his career. When he met Tanya, however, it was only a matter of months before he thought he wanted to get his stuff out of long term storage and put it in a house somewhere and settle down. Was he truly ready for this step, though, he asked himself? There were several things he had to think about before he decided.

First, he asked himself why he wanted to get married. He tried writing a list of the good and bad things he saw in Tanya. He knew that if they were even close to even, he should second guess this decision. But when he was done, he found that the good outweighed the bad by far.

Second, Brett remembered his mother telling him that if he was not comfortable speaking with the person about marriage, then it was probably not the right time to pursue it. He asked himself it he would be willing to speak openly about the possibility of marriage being in their future with Tanya, and he decided he could. He trusted that she would be honest with him about what she thought, and tell him upfront if she was not ready yet. Even with this as a possibility, he felt confident that there would be no awkwardness or hard feelings.

Bretts father had told him that he had to learn to deal with whatever history that Tanya might have, whether it related to past relationships, past mistakes she had made, or even with her family, which could possibly be Bretts family as well someday. If Brett was willing to first, learn her history, and second, take it in stride and forgive anything that needed forgiveness, he would be on a great path to marriage. Bretts father told him that if you can do this for a person, you most likely love them enough for marriage to have a good chance.

Lastly, Brett knew from experience with previous relationships that he had to know himself well before he could pursue such a large step. He had to know what he expected from a person, and had to let that person know, so that there would be no surprises after it was all said and done.

In the end, Brett did get to pull his stuff from long term storage and find a nice apartment for he and Tanya to live in. And he was not even that bitter when she made him junk half of it because it did not go with her decorating style!

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